Wedding Song Requests

Many of my clients ask how many song requests they should make for their wedding reception. On average, you can estimate about 10-15 songs being played per half hour (with a 3 minute song average). So, should you request 6+ hours of songs for your event or select some of your favorites and let your DJ do his thing?

I like to create a musical vision with my clients where we discuss the music genres and energy as if it were a soundtrack. Some clients really enjoy selecting a lot of music for their event, while others prefer to choose some of their favorites and leave the rest to me. It can be time consuming, and when you have so many details to plan and keep track of, I am more than happy to curate the perfect music for your reception. I just like to know some of your top artists, songs and genres, and I can take it from there.

It can also be helpful to know about music that you would not like to hear. While I take it for granted that you don’t want to hear the Macarena or Chicken Dance, it’s good to know other songs or styles that you would like to avoid. Tastes can often vary from event to event.

I suggest adding music to your playlists that might have special meaning for you, your family or friends. Place a high priority on the ones that you most want to hear. At an event, I naturally play the songs that are less danceable during dinner or cocktails and such. When it comes time for dancing, I choose the songs that are most likely to keep the dance party going. I also consider whether a song will work within the context of the current music, energy levels and the perceived music taste of guests. While I’m DJ-ing, I’m constantly reading the crowd, trying to predict the best song to play next. It is therefore helpful if I have the freedom to choose songs other than what is on my client’s playlists.

In the past, I have had a few events where clients requested that I only play songs from their playlists. However, this is not an effective strategy for a great dance party unless you are a professional DJ. When I consult with my clients about their upcoming event, I discuss their music choices, guest tastes and come up with a plan where I incorporate as many of their requests as possible depending on how well the songs are working on the dance floor. My main objective is to help facilitate the best party possible, which means reading the crowd and adjusting the music tastefully in a cohesive way.

On the other hand, I’ve been surprised at some events by requested songs which usually wouldn’t be successful on the dance floor–but were a huge hit. Sometimes those songs had special meaning for families or friends. If you are aware of any songs like that which your guests might particularly enjoy, I would recommend adding them to your playlists and letting me know about the song or artist significance.

Selecting music for your big day can be one of the most fun aspects of planning. Hearing your favorite jam come on at the right time with your friends and family can be some of the most epic memories of your reception. I look forward to seeing you on the dancefloor! :)